My Thoughts On Transgender Bathroom Bans

As you may know, a few days ago Donald Trump revoked a law issued by Obama allowing US transgender public school students to use the bathrooms and locker rooms that match their gender identities. Here are my thoughts on laws preventing transgender people being allowed to use bathrooms they feel safest in:

One of the main arguments for bans like these (used by people who aren’t claiming transgender people are ‘mentally ill’ or ‘don’t exist’) is that cis males will take advantage of this situation. Many advocates of the ban say cis men looking to sexually assault women will dress up as females and pretend to be transgender in order to enter girl bathrooms. They fear this will give sexual predators the chance to sexually assault, rape, or carry out other inappropriate behaviours towards women. In a world where one in five US women will be raped during their lifetimes (2015), of course these concerns are legitimate fears for females to have. Trust me, I am in no way trying to undermine that. However, we can clearly see that transgender women using female bathrooms aren’t the problem here. The concern revolves around cis men looking to sexually assault women.

Some might argue that men who assault may be the problem, but that transgender women being allowed into these spaces will still allow these men to put women in danger. The thing is though, this argument completely prioritises the safety of cis people over that of transgender people. Transgender people are put at risk when denied access to public bathrooms.  As I previously said, sexual assault is a legitimate concern for cis women, however transgender people are the most likely group to experience sexual violence, with 64% having been sexually assaulted in their lifetimes.  Those who say transgender people are the ones posing a threat to people’s safety are labelling the most vulnerable group as a dangerous one.


Police, school officials & sexual assault and domestic violence organisations say non-discrimination laws allowing transgender people to use bathrooms matching their gender identities haven’t seen ‘a rise in sexual violence or other public safety issues.’  One police department spokesman stated ‘I doubt [non-discriminatory laws are] gonna encourage the behavior. If the behavior’s there, [sexual predators are] gonna behave as they’re gonna behave no matter what the laws are.’

The National Press Secretary for The Human Rights Campaign, Sarah Mcbride, notes that if sexual assaulters were waiting on ‘loopholes’ like this to appear, they could be entering female bathrooms already.  Laws preventing transgender people using the bathrooms based on their gender identities state that everyone must use the bathrooms matching their ‘biological sex’ instead. This is defined by the sex on people’s birth certificates. Mcbride points out that transgender men are likely to have birth certificates which state they are ‘female,’ and that a lot of the time they are indistinguishable from cisgender males. So in places where it’s the law to use bathrooms matching the sex on your birth certificate, men looking to sexually assault could ‘skip the trouble of dressing up and go into the women’s room, pretending to be a transgender man.’


Time Magazine also points out that sexual assault remains sexual assault regardless of your gender identity. Many advocates of the ban work on the assumption that if a male sexual assaulter enters a female space by posing as a transgender woman, their actions will have no consequences. However, if a woman claims she was sexually assaulted, the gender identity of the assaulter doesn’t change the fact that this is a crime. Human Rights Campaign attorney Cathryn Oakley points out: ‘If you are a man who dresses as a woman and goes into a bathroom and commits a crime, whether you have a non-discrimination protection on the basis of gender identity or not, that behavior is illegal and criminal and you could be arrested and go to jail.’

The last and rather ironic point I am going to make is that Donald Trump, the person who revoked Obama’s guidelines based on ‘the safety of women ’ has infamously bragged about getting away with sexually assaulting women because of his fame. This is the man who has set an example to millions by trivialising sexual assault and sexualising women. As president of the United States, his words have real consequences when it comes to the attitudes of people towards these topics. Does this man really care about preventing the sexual assault of women? Or is this just, as many have claimed, an excuse for prejudice and hatred?


The Trump administration rescinding protections for transgender students means these children and teenagers are in more danger now than they were under Obama’s rules. In order to fight this prejudice, we need to educate people about these things. Whatever your gender identity, do your best to teach people, write blog posts, write articles, post on social media, go to peaceful protests, support organisations, etc. Basically, do whatever you can to spread the message that transgender people deserve better than this. I’m a cis female, so obviously I can’t understand how terrible these restrictions must be. But, if anyone reading this is transgender, then what I do know is that you’re strong as hell and that there are tons of people out there that completely support you. And I’m sorry Donald Trump is such an asshat.






Random Thought – Donald Trump is Rude

So as you probably know, Donald Trump held an hour and a half long press conference a couple of days ago. During the conference, Trump discussed many things ranging from himself to every paper he believes is delivering ‘fake news.’

As I watched him tell everybody he had the largest electoral college victory since Ronald Reagan, a thought dawned upon me: Donald Trump is a very rude, arrogant man (not for that false claim in particular, just in general).

Now I know what you’re thinking – ‘wow, this girl is a genius, she’s figured out that Donald Trump is rude! What a major new discovery that no one has ever thought of before!’ (sarcasm).

Yes, I know everybody already knows that Donald Trump is arrogant. I already knew Donald Trump was arrogant, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. However, whenever I’ve watched the president before, I think I’ve been too distracted by the highly questionable things he’s been saying about immigrants, women, and other marginalised groups to think much about his rudeness.

That night, I saw Donald Trump for what he was underneath all the other terrifying things he was at the surface – not very nice. I wouldn’t really care about his rudeness if his policies didn’t terrify and upset me. Unfortunately though, they do, so his personality still bothers me.

Obviously I know that the rudeness of Donald Trump doesn’t compare to the worrying policies he’s making and the impact he’s having on people’s lives. You’re probably sat there thinking: ‘this girl is ridiculous, she should be talking about the things Trump is doing, not whether he says please and thank you at the dinner table.’ And I’d totally agree with you, but it was just a random thought I had in my head.

5 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams

For the sarcastic individual that I am, I sure do come out with a lot of deep, supposedly ‘inspirational’ waffle at times. This is one of those occasions, so if you’re someone who enjoys reading annoying ‘profound’ articles that tell you how to live your life, then this is the post for you.

Lately, as I’ve become increasingly aware of the inevitability of death (which I might expand on another time), the realisation that I need to follow my dreams has hit me like a ton of bricks. Essentially, I’ve realised that I need to live my life to the fullest. Alongside this, I’ve developed a nagging feeling that I should be telling other people to follow their dreams too (because clearly I feel like I have that kind of authority or something).

Evidently, I am someone who thinks it’s really important to follow your dreams. When I say this, I’m talking about actually following your dreams though, not just decorating your apartment with aesthetically pleasing ‘life is short’ wall stickers. Not that there’s anything wrong with decorating your apartment, you can do that too.

Without further ado, here are 5 extremely good reasons why you should follow your dreams, and 5 extremely good examples of me relying far too heavily on clichés in my writing:

  1. You only live once – please don’t throw things at me! Overused as this expression was about three years ago, in my opinion the initial message of the statement has become somewhat overlooked. I am not afraid to tell you that YOLO, so you’d better start living today!


  1. It’s better to regret what you have done than what you haven’t. Noticing my theme of cheesy expressions yet? I’m not going to lie, when I embarrass myself by doing something regrettable, I often look back on it and cringe immensely. It can be an extremely painful experience. But do you know what I find worse? Looking back on opportunities I’ve missed and thinking ‘I could’ve done that.’ That feeling sucks.


  1. Your opinions of yourself are more important than other people’s opinions of you. I feel like this one ties into the expression: ‘the longest relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.’ I’m not going to sit here and tell you not to care what other people think of you. Telling you to do that would be extremely difficult and would make me a total hypocrite. However, I will tell you to try and care about your opinion of yourself more and to do whatever you want with your life regardless. Within reason.


  1. The feeling of satisfaction you get from accomplishing your goals is awesome. The feeling I get after doing something successfully or putting myself out of my comfort zone is one of my favourites in the world. Binge watching TV is amazing I’m not going to lie to you, but it doesn’t give me the same buzz as doing something great. I’m not telling you to never watch TV again though, that would be cruel.


  1. To be honest, you owe it to yourself. Think about all the unpleasant things you’ve done today. You probably got out of bed this morning – that was awful right? But you did it anyway because you’re strong as heck. Surely, after everything you’ve put yourself through, you at least owe it to yourself to achieve the things you’ve been dreaming about? Right? That’s what I thought.

So there you have it, 5 good reasons for you to get off your butt and achieve your goals. No need to thank me. (; If you still find me mildly tolerable, let me know what your dreams are in the comments below. I’d love to hear about them!

Deep and inspirational images by: me